It’s never too late to change your mind or your perspective. — There is no getting around reality. Reality doesn’t care if you like it or not. Reality is what life hands you on a day-to-day basis. You can argue with reality until the moon turns green and you’re blue in the face, but you will never win that argument. Worldwide pandemics…

Spoiler: it’s not have more sex. — Insulting your partner is damaging. In many relationships, though, that is a standard operating procedure. Name-calling and hurling insults — the meaner, the better, are the norm. We say awful things we’d never say to a friend and expect our partner to forgive us because “I was angry, and that’s…

And one particular skill that will change every relationship you have. — You fell in love. Heaven smiled down on you. There was nothing the two of you couldn’t accomplish together — an unbeatable team. One was witty, kind, and caring. The other was responsible and thoughtful. One of you loved cooking, and the other loved cleaning. You both loved motorcycles, the…

If you read a book and nothing changes, what’s the point? — I want to tell you about an entrepreneur — a fourteen year old boy who is a role model for all of us. But first, let’s talk about you. You want something, but you’re not sure what it is. You know you want to feel different than you do, so…

Fake it till you make it with these patience hacks. — Are you the most impatient person you know? Do you have a thirty second fuse before you lose your mind? I am one of the most impatient people I know. At the same time, I’m not a total jerk about it. I can mostly keep my feelings of impatience to…

Which one do you think is more reliable? — Love as a verb is about how I take care of others and how I relate to them; love as a feeling is about how others make me feel — it’s about me, me, me. Love as a verb. Stephen Covey tells a great story that illustrates my point in his best-seller, The 7…

It’s all about changing your relationship with pain. — Changing your relationship with pain probably sounds absurd when your migraine, toothache, or broken foot is pounding so hard you want to throw up. Pain is pain. But is it? Resistance, even resisting your resistance, is part of the problem. You’ve probably heard the truism, ‘whatever you resist, persists.’ …

And achieve success as a by-product along the way. — This isn’t a bullet-point list of ‘how-to’s.’ Instead, it’s the story of how I learned the importance of perspective and where I put my attention. When my son was a teenager, his dad and I came close to blowing it. We were faced with a choice. We could keep reading…

How to make sure that doesn’t happen. — Both self-absorption and self-reflection require attention to our inner world. But that’s where the similarity ends. Self-reflection is about honestly exploring how you behave, not so much about how you feel. Instead, it’s seriously considering your character, actions, and motives, and then telling yourself the truth about yourself. Self-absorption is…