The top three New Year’s resolutions for women in 2021, according to Stasia Savasuk, presenter and internet style coach, were:
1. Exercise more
2. Improve Diet
3. Lose Weight
Then she says, guess what they were in 2020, 2019, 2018, 2017…:
1. Exercise more
2. Improve Diet
3. Lose Weight
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We all know them — couples who incessantly bicker about how things should be done. Or the ones who’ve given up, detached to China because they haven’t learned how to solve problems or deal with differences.
Many relationships that matter to us die because we didn’t individuate from our family…
That curious paradox — the only way we can change is to first accept ourselves just as we are — was identified by Carl Rogers, the father of humanistic psychology.
Rogers spoke from personal experience. He wasn’t loftily trying to fix broken people. He was learning from them, and sharing…
To know ourselves today, we must return to the beginning.
To understand why we do what we do, we must first greet our much younger selves. Then, we can tease out the adult behaviors that no longer serve us and replace them with ones that will.
Charlotte Joko Beck, beloved…
In my experience, after physical safety, the number one challenge to healthy relationships is a lack of emotional safety.
In working with individuals and couples — and with myself — I see it over and over. It’s the off-limit topics that make relationships feel unsafe. …
“You will never be more powerful or peaceful than when you are completely vulnerable, with nothing to defend.” — Unknown
I don’t know if I read that quote or made it up many years ago, but it has to some degree shaped my adult life as a person and my…
As a psychotherapist, I often hear, “He’s only after one thing, and it’s not a permanent commitment,” or “She’s only after one thing, and I can’t afford it.”
My response in both cases is similar — there are plenty of trustworthy people out there who are looking for what you…
Ever spend time around someone who is out to change the world, and that includes you?
Byron Katie, a present-day philosopher and author, says, “There are three kinds of business in the world. God’s business, everybody else’s business, and our business. …
Humility can be a slippery concept.
When clients describe themselves as humble, I sometimes wonder, hmmm, is that true?
When we believe we’ve arrived at humility, we need to be careful what we’re experiencing isn’t arrogance. Arrogance is a sense of pride that makes us feel we’re better than others…
As Byron Katie, philosopher and author of Loving What Is says: “If you argue with reality, you will only lose 100% of the time.”
When life dishes up something you don’t want or denies you something you do want, it’s human to resist. And that sums up the story of…
Therapist, mindfulness coach, writer. Obsessed with relationships and making them better. Get in touch at robyn1001@comcast.net or www.partnersinmindfulliving.
